After spending many years practising doing things the "more challenging way," I figured out you didn't have to bottom out before asking for help. Most people don't access how they may think, behave or what they do on a day in, day out basis. Then bang something happenings, and the whole world comes down. Or in other scenarios, it can be a small problem to begin with, that you don't care much for and then over time this problem grows and grows and grows until the thing that
One of the first things I do when working with anyone is asking them what their problems are. I know especially when I was an athlete I would drag my problems around with me, sometimes complain, moan and reinforce "how crap" my problem was. Sometimes people don't let go of these things, and they spend more time fighting their problem. By focusing purely on the problem (not the solution) what it can tend to do is consume us. All our thoughts, spare time and persona take on t
I'm the first to put my hands up and say I was the first to blame and point the finger as to why things may not have worked out for me. I've thankfully moved on from this way of thinking. A lot of us tend to justify our behaviour to ourselves by saying, it's ok for me to behave in a certain way because of the "situation" I was in. What many people struggle with is gathering perspective on their problems. The majority of the time we only ever see things from one perspective.
We all have our fair share of life problems and issues along the way. One thing I've learnt is that when something comes up, it's best to deal with it then and there. If something is challenging and you try to deal with the whole thing yourself, it can become overwhelming. I've learnt this the hard way over the years. Pretending that everything is fine and then slowly seeing the issue grow until it becomes something all consuming. Seneca has an awesome quote that says "riv
Everyone has their fair share of problems in life. Resilience is a fantastic tool to help us with those problems big or small. It's the ability to come back after you've been mentally floored by something. Why is resilience important? I know during my time as an athlete I encountered a huge number of problems. Long term injury, illnesses, overloading of work. Each time you always feel overwhelmed, thinking is this every going to stop or how can I get out of this situation