Dealing with the elephant in the room
We all have our fair share of life problems and issues along the way. One thing I've learnt is that when something comes up, it's best to deal with it then and there. If something is challenging and you try to deal with the whole thing yourself, it can become overwhelming. I've learnt this the hard way over the years.
Pretending that everything is fine and then slowly seeing the issue grow until it becomes something all consuming.
Seneca has an awesome quote that says "rivers are always easiest to cross at their source."
I was one of the worst people to share any issues I had, and sometimes I would let issues fester or even use that as motivation. Over time I learnt the hard way that this level of thinking doesn't get you too far down the path of what it is you're aiming for. It also makes you feel pretty crap. When you're in this state of mind, how well are you able to think?
Most people are to afraid to share their problems and ask for help because they're afraid of what other people will think of them.
Nobody has a perfect life and despite things all looking great on the surface what goes on behind the scenes is very different from the stage show.
I'm not saying you need to hang your dirty laundry in the street but asking for help when you need it can ensure that you don't get so far down the path that you're about to hit a breaking point.
It's much better to ask for help from people you trust. Preferably non-biased opinions are the best. As sometimes people just tell you what you want to hear which doesn't help the situation or teach you anything with how to solve a similar problem in the future.
Look at what's happened, see if you've contributed anything to cause the situation. Not doing anything is a contribution.
Then think what way have I thought about has happened and has that level of thinking or action helped or made the situation worse.
"We cannot solve our problems with the same level of thinking we used when we created them." Albert Einstein
So the six key points are
- Communicate with those you trust.
- Nip the problem early.
- Stand back and access the situation (imagine you're watching it on the tv)
- Look at how you've thought and behaved and how has that helped.
- what way do you need to think and behave to go above the level of the problem
- Work hard on implementing the last line