As I immerse myself more with my work, I see more and more that we humans are extremely habitual with our behaviour. With this trait, it can sometimes get us into sticky situations. I know at the time if I was in a tricky situation (e.g. disagreement with parents, teachers, sports coach) I'd either vent verbally or turn on my heel and run. Another one of my favourites was to complain and moan about how bad the problem was following it. Since then things have moved on a litt
I'm the first to put my hands up and say I was the first to blame and point the finger as to why things may not have worked out for me. I've thankfully moved on from this way of thinking. A lot of us tend to justify our behaviour to ourselves by saying, it's ok for me to behave in a certain way because of the "situation" I was in. What many people struggle with is gathering perspective on their problems. The majority of the time we only ever see things from one perspective.
As humans, many of us are programmed on an external result. Something like a job, buying a house getting a bigger pay cheque, getting selected for that sports team. There's nothing wrong with thinking this way. It just won't keep the wheels turning as quickly in the long term. With regards to developing your thinking. What happens when you achieve that outcome or if it was a significant milestone, well what about after that? Most people think that if they only change their
Some people are all or nothing. They have to hit something a 100mph and go all in. I used to be like this with my training, it resulted in me breaking physically, burning out or being confused about how I could progress. I recently read a cool piece from Aristotle; he talks around the Golden Mean. What he says is "they trained the men and not the women, and they trained for war but not peace." The value in what he's saying is pretty clear, what's the point in just being a
Emotional intelligence is becoming a hot topic in the world of business. To be honest, it should be applicable across the board and taught in schools, universities. Those who learn to master their emotions will move faster and think better than those who are extremely emotional. I know when I was competing as an athlete I would go up and down with my thinking. I'd be driven purely on proving others wrong. Sometimes I'd be driven just to claim the title and bragging rights
We all have our fair share of life problems and issues along the way. One thing I've learnt is that when something comes up, it's best to deal with it then and there. If something is challenging and you try to deal with the whole thing yourself, it can become overwhelming. I've learnt this the hard way over the years. Pretending that everything is fine and then slowly seeing the issue grow until it becomes something all consuming. Seneca has an awesome quote that says "riv
A lot of people think that there is a secret formula to getting to the top of your game. Guess what!?? There is no secret sauce or rarely overnight successes. The way in which you achieve the things you wish to aspire in is to build in the small habits you'll need to succeed in the future right now. We are all happy to talk about the big game the things we want and things we wish to achieve. Talking about something and doing it are entirely different things. So many people
So what is it? It is the ability to recognise our own feelings and others. Then knowing how to use that information best to guide your thinking and behavior. All human beings are easily influenced by emotions. We love it when things are going well and feel like we can take over the world. Equally on the other end of the scale when times are challenging or deemed to be stressful, emotionally we will act and behave another way. One emotion makes you feel that you can take ove